Apologies in advance for the plethora of clichés that I will be using throughout this post. It is about relationships, so I suppose almost every phrase I use is a cliché to some extent. Relationship clichés are just inevitable. Don't read the post if you don't like them.
When you're in high school, and you find yourself in a relationship, it can feel like the world revolves around you and that person that you are with. All that matters at the end of the day is that you've got them by your side, or texting you good night. It feels like they'll be with you forever.
Sometimes, they will be! Sometimes, that person that becomes your lab partner in Physics really does end up being your partner for life. And that's a beautiful thing. More often, things end. And that's okay, too.
This post isn't about dating, or things lasting forever, or the illusion that they will. This is just about you. Just you.
So you broke up. You are heartbroken and for the next period of time between this relationship and the next one, you will fluctuate between feeling "forever alone" and "hell yeah I love being single." This happens. When you're feeling "forever alone," go to your support system. Your mom, dad, friends, siblings, a counselor. Even silly, teenage angst is something worth talking out and being supportive of. High school is weird and strange and difficult and getting your feelings hurt sucks. Even hurting someone else's feelings sucks. And you gotta be supportive of people going through that.
Never forget who you are as an individual. You are strong, independent, and you don't need no (wo)man. Being on your own, fresh out of relationship is difficult sometimes, but it's an opportunity to remember who you are with no intentions, no flirting, no distractions. Enjoy your own company. At least give it a few days before you start chasing another (wo)man to date. Just. Take a step back and think before you panic about dying alone. It really will all work out, and you are never alone. You've got friends and family, and you will always have yourself.
Relationships and dating and romance are about being with someone who makes you happier than you thought you could be. Someone who makes you laugh, smile, and is there for you when you are crying and upset. If the person you're with doesn't make you these things, don't settle for less than you deserve. Do not ever stay in a relationship on the basis that you might not find someone else. You have to be okay on your own.
I'll close with a cliché quote. But really, if there's one thing to take away from this, it's that relationships aren't everything and you really will be okay. Even if it's on your own for a while.
“Don't compromise yourself. You're all you've got.” - Janis Joplin
Don't sell yourself short.
Claire
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